Love Dare Day 27

~~Day 27 ~Love encourages~~

Guard my soul and deliver me; do not let me be ashamed, for I take refuge in You. —Psalm 25: 20

We go into marriage thinking it's going to be a bed of roses, our spouse fulfilling our every want and need! This is unrealistic, the higher our expectations the more likely your spouse will disappoint you!

Expecting our spouse to meet all our needs and make us happy puts impossible expectations on a human. Does your spouse constantly live under your microscope of inspection? Are they fearful that they will never live up to expectations?

When faced with constant disapproval and criticism – no one feels loved, or loving. Our natural reaction is to resist and rebel. And to harden our heart against the negative feelings we feel bombarding us.

Marriage is meant to be two flawed people coming together to encourage each other. 

Stop expecting your spouse to understand all your thinking!

Instead let them be inspired by your appreciation.

Focus on their strengths, and build them up with your words!

~~TODAY'S DARE~~

ELIMINATE THE POISON OF UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS IN YOUR HOME. THINK OF ONE AREA WHERE YOUR SPOUSE HAS TOLD YOU YOU’RE EXPECTING TOO MUCH, AND TELL THEM YOU’RE SORRY FOR BEING SO HARD ON THEM ABOUT IT. PROMISE THEM YOU’LL SEEK TO UNDERSTAND, AND ASSURE THEM OF YOUR UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.

When you place high expectations on your spouse that they don’t feel internally motivated to attain, what does that tell you about yourself?

What are some better ways to deal with these disconnects?

What things has your spouse recently done well that you can point out and thank them for?