Love Dare day 18

~DAY 18~Love seeks to understand~~

How blessed is the man who finds wisdom, and the man who gains understanding. —Proverbs 3: 13

We enjoy discovering as much as we can about the things we truly care about. If it’s our favorite football team , we’ll read any article that helps us keep up with how they’re doing. If it’s cooking, we’ll check out those channels or Web sites that share the best grilling techniques or dessert recipes. If there’s a subject that appeals to us, we’ll take notice any time it comes up. In fact, it naturally becomes our area of personal study.

 Consider the following perspective: if the amount you studied your spouse before marriage were equal to a high school diploma, then you should continue to learn about your mate until you gain a “college degree,” a “master’s degree,” and ultimately a “doctorate degree.” Think of it as a lifelong journey that draws your heart ever closer to your mate.

Do you know his or her greatest hopes and dreams?

Do you fully understand how they prefer to give and receive love?

Do you know what your spouse’s greatest fears are and why they struggle with them?

Some of the problems you have in relating to your spouse are simply because you don’t understand them .

~~TODAY’S DARE~~

PREPARE A SPECIAL DINNER AT HOME, JUST FOR THE TWO OF YOU. THE DINER CAN BE AS NICE AS YOU PREFER. FOCUS THIS TIME ON GETTING TO KNOW YOUR SPOUSE BETTER, PERHAPS IN AREAS YOU’VE RARELY TALKED ABOUT. DETERMINE TO MAKE IT AN ENJOYABLE EVENING FOR YOU AND YOUR MATE.

What did you learn about your spouse that you didn’t know before?

How could you continue this process of discovery in other ways, at other times?

What were some of the moments that made this evening memorable?