~DAY 3~ LOVE IS NOT SELFISH~
Be devoted to one another in brotherly love: give preference to one another in honor.-----Romans 12:10
Selfishness and love are in constant opposition to one another. While love asks us to deny ourselves for the sake of someone else, selfishness compels us to focus on ourselves at their expense. Selfishness is like a disease that suffocates our capacity to love. When we choose self-centeredness, we become higher maintenance—more needy, overly sensitive, demanding. And then when we don’t get our way, we judge others harshly while being blind to our own faults.
Sadly, we live in a world that is enamored with “self.”
Marriage exposes our selfishness, When a husband puts his wants and desires first, when a wife complains about the time and energy she spends meeting her husbands needs, these are signs of selfishness!!
Choosing to love your mate will cause you to say “no” to what you want so you can say “yes” to what they need. It doesn’t mean you cannot enjoy any personal fulfillment , but you don’t negate the happiness of your spouse to enjoy it yourself.
If you find this day’s challenge hard to swallow and are frustrated with the idea of sacrificing your own desires to benefit your spouse, then you may have a deeper problem with selfishness than you want to admit. Ask yourself these questions:
Do I truly want what’s best for my husband or wife?
Do I want them to feel loved by me?
Do they believe I have their best interests in mind?
Do they see me as looking out for myself first, or them first?
Remember, your partner also has the challenge of learning to love a selfish person.
WHATEVER YOU PUT YOUR TIME, ENERGY, AND MONEY INTO WILL BECOME MORE IMPORTANT TO YOU. IT'S HARD TO CARE FOR SOMETHING YOU ARE NOT INVESTING IN. ALONG WITH RESTRAINING FROM NEGATIVE COMMENTS, BUY YOUR SPOUSE SOMETHING THAT SAYS," I WAS THINKING OF YOU TODAY".
What did you choose to give your spouse?
What happened when you gave it to them?
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