Tuesday, January 14, 2014



How precious also are your thoughts to me.......How vast is the sum of them!, they would outnumber the sand. Psalm 139:17-18

When you first fell in love, being thoughtful came quite naturally. You spent hours dreaming of what your loved one looked like, wondering what he or she was doing , rehearsing impressive things to say, then enjoying sweet memories of the time you spent together. You honestly confessed, “I can’t stop thinking about you.
But for most couples, things begin to change after marriage. The wife finally has her man; the husband has his trophy. The hunt is over and the pursuing done. Sparks of romance slowly burn into gray embers, and the motivation for thoughtfulness cools. You drift into focusing on your job, your friends, your problems, your personal desires, yourself. After a while, you unintentionally begin to ignore the needs of your mate.

Love requires thoughtfulness— on both sides— the kind that builds bridges through the constructive combination of patience, kindness, and selflessness. Love teaches you to meet in the middle , to respect and appreciate how your spouse uniquely thinks. A husband should listen to his wife and learn to be considerate of her unspoken messages. A wife should learn to communicate truthfully and not say one thing while meaning another.

When was the last time you spent a few minutes thinking about how you could better understand and demonstrate love to your spouse? What immediate need can you meet? What’s the next event (anniversary, birthday, holiday ) you could be preparing for? Great marriages come from great thinking.

 Contact your spouse sometime during the business of the day. Have no agenda other than asking how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.

What did you learn about yourself or your spouse by doing this today? How could this become a more natural,routine, and genuinely helpful part of your lifestyle?

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